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Mommy's Little Girl by sabishiidesu13 Mommy's Little Girl by sabishiidesu13
For the 2013 Embracing Our Differences Contest
There are two versions of this: the original and the one I submitted for the contest (since I DERPED and forgot that it had to be landscape and not portrait). This is the original.


Rather than appearance, a person should be judged by the content of their character. Gender stereotypes are a part of society. Clothes and toys are sorted based on gender; some languages require that you use certain words based on gender. Gender is fluid, and sometimes, a person may feel different than what their body presents. However, girls and boys alike have expected ways of behaving and may be judged or teased by family and peers for not being “manly enough” or “unladylike”. The dysphoria caused by the feeling of being in the wrong body combined with the pressure to fit into society causes pain. Today, many variants of gender are recognized: cismale/female, transmale/female, genderqueer, and so forth. To be looked down upon because of how one sees themself is wrong. Whatever pronoun you wish to be referred to should not affect how people view you as a person.

In my work, I wanted to express how a parent could keep you from being who you are. Many kids feel like they have to live up to their parents’ expectations and make them happy. What if one of those expectations was to see them grow up to be a young woman or man?


Thank you to my brother who helped me write the description.

It's been a LONG time since I last did a piece as big as this. If you can't tell I kinda forgot how to color hair. XD I also spent about and hour and a half trying to cell shade for some reason...I ended up trashing that and starting over. I'm glad I did. :)

Time was around 21-22 hours. Big thanks to Giovanni Civardi's Human Anatomy book. It really helped me on drawing the bodies. I don't draw faces like him, but I tried going for a more realistic look since I don't think my usually manga-inspired style would go well with the piece.

In the one I submitted to the contest, I ended up having to cut about half of the whole picture. Even though it kinda looked better I was still sad...mainly because of, well.... :icondatass:. However it did cut off the girl's fingers, which I forgot to fix before I got to coloring :I

Uuuuuuuh so yeah. Hopefully everyone likes. : D It's been so long since I've submitted anything so I don't really know what to say anymore;;;
Thank you for viewing! Have a wonderful day<3
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iSkullie Featured By Owner Apr 24, 2016   General Artist
I got very emotional while looking at this picture, mainly because I feel this every day. 
Amazing work. 
TomboyJanet Featured By Owner Mar 30, 2016  Student General Artist
A very close friend of mine is the same from the other end. Her mom always calling her handsome, and buying mens dress crap.
DiaperPuppyPrincess Featured By Owner Feb 26, 2016
I didn't think that out well. Pretty much I am the boy being forced to be a man. Because I am too scared to tell anyone I want to be a pretty girl
DiaperPuppyPrincess Featured By Owner Feb 26, 2016
It is the other way around for me I am the boy in the mirror wishing I was a girl
ladybug-loft Featured By Owner Jan 13, 2016  Professional General Artist
great narrative
McCrimmon97 Featured By Owner Dec 27, 2015
This is true, so painfully trueNo, I disagree! 
XxSerichanxX Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2015  Student Digital Artist
*sits in corner with blanket* ;-;
NightmaredProduction Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2015  Student Photographer
-Cries in corner-
alone0211 Featured By Owner Oct 5, 2015
me encantó, es hermoso :')
theotakuwhale Featured By Owner Sep 22, 2015
Amazing! Bravo! Love it! X3
921MyDog Featured By Owner Edited Sep 2, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
I understand this message very well... Maybe that's stupid, but I'm crying looking at this picture :'-(
YouAreCool10 Featured By Owner Aug 16, 2015  Student General Artist
Wow well done powerful!
eleventhdr Featured By Owner Aug 10, 2015  Hobbyist Artist
yes oh yes i can understand this because i too feel this way i was suppose to have been a girl in this life time but i have been stuck male but i am a girl  and i want to be wearing dresses skirts and to be feminine!
hermafrodite Featured By Owner Jul 2, 2015  Hobbyist Photographer
so ben there with the elders of my family
Jorgingel Featured By Owner Jun 30, 2015  Student Writer
This is my life. This is literally my entire life I'm gonna cry this is gorgeous.
BlackRose-Wolf Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2015  Student Traditional Artist
I'm highly unlady-like.
spookyfmulder Featured By Owner 4 days ago
That's not at all what this is about.
dudester567 Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2015
omg I'm exactly this but opposite sex
Tesla-That-Hedgehog Featured By Owner Feb 8, 2015
this is so confusing but i dont care :heart:
KarterPayzer Featured By Owner Jan 11, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
this photo describes me. I am a transgender man, I wasn't confident in my body and I still am not. It was really hard trying to explain "hey, I'm a male trapped in a female body." I've called myself a male for thirteen years and now I'm 20 years of age. I'm starting to feel confident with myself, but it's hard to be transgender in a world where society is against you. 
leticiaresende Featured By Owner May 12, 2015
Please don't be discouraged by others. You got this. Hug 
Princessblushxoxo Featured By Owner Jan 11, 2015  Student Writer
Hi, I'm currently doing a story about a Trans Gender Male and this piece of art would work perfectly as the cover. I saw this on Tumblr and fan-girled over how perfect it would be. May I please have permission to use it? I will give you full credit 
Zodtra Featured By Owner Dec 21, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Haha its funny, thats how i feel.
The-Adorkable-Nerd Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2014
That's a cute dress

Bu anyway such a great picture with a great message
De-Vore Featured By Owner Nov 13, 2014
Thank you so much for making this. :)
crowxrose Featured By Owner Oct 28, 2014
When I saw it, this picture hit me hard.
Not even because of the message... But because I saw it backwards.
I saw the face of a boy staring into a mirror with a dress, imagining himself as a girl.
Dragonsong3 Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I relate to this so badly :(
nhprodigio Featured By Owner Edited Oct 20, 2014  Student Digital Artist
OMGosh... when I saw this I had a flashback to my early teens O_o Thank you so much for drawing this, it really captures how it feels.
Lazy-Gamer Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I found you, Nupergo. \o3o/
nhprodigio Featured By Owner Jul 26, 2015  Student Digital Artist
haha hi Riko ^_^
IceSamZero Featured By Owner Oct 9, 2014
Thank you so much for this.
AmplifiedSavagery Featured By Owner Oct 5, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
SaxonVoter Featured By Owner Oct 5, 2014  Student
I saw this on tumblr and had to stare at if for a while to realise what I was seeing. Great piece of art, very beautiful and sends a strong message.
RirenLiplock Featured By Owner Oct 5, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
This picture makes me nearly cry, because this is exactly how I feel when my mother always tries to make me into her perfect little girl. It's been twenty years, and I'm still not the perfect daughter she wants. Recently I'm starting to break away and try and let her see that I'm not lying when I say I can't be who she wants me to be, but am instead my own person. I hope someday I'll be free of her opinions and that she'll learn to accept who I really am.
Thank you for drawing this. It helps me feel a bit stronger.
Gubble Featured By Owner Oct 4, 2014
Thank you for this picture
TheDreamWeavers Featured By Owner Aug 28, 2014  Student General Artist
UseingThisToComeOut...Thank you.
Xanness Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2014
Okay, yeah seriously. I love dresses and all, but what if the little girl doesn't want to be all girly? What if she looks like a girl on the outside, but feels like a boy on the inside? It may be shocking, and not the ideals you see for your child, but they are still your baby, and if you love them, truly love them, then you'd help them deal with this big part of their life, instead of shutting down completely and make them feel like they have in some way shamed or disappointed you. Parenthood is about sacrifices, and putting your child's needs before any of your own issues. It doesn't matter what you think, so long as they are happy. (unless they like rape and murder and drugs. Then stop that.)
4154165 Featured By Owner Jul 17, 2014
this picture always scares the hell out of me…
CrimRedaria Featured By Owner Oct 14, 2014
I'm just curious to how? :o
KeikiShirou Featured By Owner Jul 9, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
bless you
malphigus Featured By Owner Jun 21, 2014  Student General Artist
I just saw this on tumblr

I was scrolling down and down and down

and then suddenly this post

my fingers stopped, my eyes halted. My body was frozen, stupefied.

This speaks volumes. Thank you so much.
JDLuvaSQEE Featured By Owner Jun 3, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
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bahuchara-mata Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2014

Once again, to make sure you don´t misunderstood that, it´s not the point what someone “wants to be”, “wants to be like” or even worse “wants to act like”, like your pathologistic baiting term “dysphoria” implies it or similarly arrogant and pompous yunk-scientific terms a'la “sexual/ gender (identity) incongruity” and other likely totally random defamations, which only crown these body fascistic illusions.

The point is not to listen to any nonsense of others who want to tell you what you and your body are, but to show such normative assignations the shit end of the stick.
No one has the right to condemn the body of another.
Many (/most) people live their social imposed rules of behavior and call this "gender roll" (it´s just a symbolic loaded term, reproduced by specific acting, nothing someone can be - If you walk a way, and someone sees you, does it makes you become the way?), but no one chooses to be who and what they are (“he/she/it” or non of them) and no one seriously plays a “self re-enact" (If you walk a way, and someone implies you are not the one that walks on this way, does it makes you become someone else?), this is a giant difference, hope you understand finally.

bahuchara-mata Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2014

Sorry, but that's just genital-sexist and manifestation of normative images of the body, and has nothing to do with anti-sexist clarification, but is merely a confirmation of patriarchal values and norms.

At first glance, I thought the picture would be something similar to a kind of abstract fetish fantasy of a mirror image of return during a kind of "forced cross dressing"- session; in which case, the image would even have had a chance for his unconventional style. Unfortunately I´v read your abysmally poor statement, so it just degenerates into a crude representation of a die-hard body chauvinism.
I can only advise not to repeat such altruistic hypocrisies and played condolences, and to find a different way to express your body-complexes, instead of profiling yourself on socio-cultural mechanisms of repression and control, by using clichés and stereotypes. Such abusive-exploitations are just disgusting and offending to people who are affected by social / institutional sexual false assignment.
The only thing you bring off here, is craving for recognition and indoctrinating superiority thinking that any body characteristics (inner / outer) could have any validity about your / other ones sex or gender.

Not the body is wrong, but the idea of sex is separable from the self-knowledge, and would be determined by the body!!!

“Genderistic Genitalism: approach used among supporters of the “queer-” and “gender-theory”, which generally accepts that sex and gender are constructs so far, but yet ends up sticking to genitalistic, biologistic and anatomistic sex/gender images again, for example by the propagation of the contentual separation of "sex" and "gender". Often genitalistic prejudices, exclusions and assignments are justified here by sociological terms such as "female / male socialized" or “perceived feminine”, but ultimately genitalistic suppression mostly just continues as anywhere.”

(source: "Diskussion:Genitalismus - anarchopedia")

TheAncynt Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
uuummm... what?
bauble123 Featured By Owner Mar 24, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
this is wonderful! It really reinforces the phrase "a picture is worth a thousand words".
Ohmachidai Featured By Owner Mar 21, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
this is so amazing :wow: ... 
pczelda Featured By Owner Mar 20, 2014   Digital Artist
Wow there's so much here. The girl's arm is so unnaturally thin too, wonder what you were intending with that... starvation to get thinner?
sky-the-ripper Featured By Owner Mar 13, 2014  Student General Artist
I sooooooooooooooooooooo get this!! I'm a high school freshman and 16-years-old, and ever since I could remember I was always picked on by my own family (my mom included) and other people because I'm a MAJOR tomboy! I've always wore pants, t-shirts that would be considered a guys shirt, and sneakers! At my old school (the one I use to go to before I moved in the 3rd Grade) I was almost forced on pills because my school wanted all kids to act like young "ladies" and young "gentlemen" I HATED IT! My mom always tried to force my into dresses and I always hated it, as soon as she left I changed back into my jeans and t-shirt. I just don't get why people are so critical about how dress because of what gender they are! It makes no sense to me!
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