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Mommy's Little Girl by sabishiidesu13 Mommy's Little Girl by sabishiidesu13
For the 2013 Embracing Our Differences Contest
There are two versions of this: the original and the one I submitted for the contest (since I DERPED and forgot that it had to be landscape and not portrait). This is the original.

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Rather than appearance, a person should be judged by the content of their character. Gender stereotypes are a part of society. Clothes and toys are sorted based on gender; some languages require that you use certain words based on gender. Gender is fluid, and sometimes, a person may feel different than what their body presents. However, girls and boys alike have expected ways of behaving and may be judged or teased by family and peers for not being “manly enough” or “unladylike”. The dysphoria caused by the feeling of being in the wrong body combined with the pressure to fit into society causes pain. Today, many variants of gender are recognized: cismale/female, transmale/female, genderqueer, and so forth. To be looked down upon because of how one sees themself is wrong. Whatever pronoun you wish to be referred to should not affect how people view you as a person.

In my work, I wanted to express how a parent could keep you from being who you are. Many kids feel like they have to live up to their parents’ expectations and make them happy. What if one of those expectations was to see them grow up to be a young woman or man?

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Thank you to my brother who helped me write the description.

It's been a LONG time since I last did a piece as big as this. If you can't tell I kinda forgot how to color hair. XD I also spent about and hour and a half trying to cell shade for some reason...I ended up trashing that and starting over. I'm glad I did. :)

Time was around 21-22 hours. Big thanks to Giovanni Civardi's Human Anatomy book. It really helped me on drawing the bodies. I don't draw faces like him, but I tried going for a more realistic look since I don't think my usually manga-inspired style would go well with the piece.

In the one I submitted to the contest, I ended up having to cut about half of the whole picture. Even though it kinda looked better I was still sad...mainly because of, well.... :icondatass:. However it did cut off the girl's fingers, which I forgot to fix before I got to coloring :I

Uuuuuuuh so yeah. Hopefully everyone likes. : D It's been so long since I've submitted anything so I don't really know what to say anymore;;;
Thank you for viewing! Have a wonderful day<3
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BlackRose-Wolf Featured By Owner Feb 23, 2015  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I'm highly unlady-like.
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dudester567 Featured By Owner Feb 9, 2015
omg I'm exactly this but opposite sex
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Tesla-That-Hedgehog Featured By Owner Feb 8, 2015  Hobbyist Filmographer
this is so confusing but i dont care :heart:
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KarterPayzer Featured By Owner Jan 11, 2015  New member Hobbyist General Artist
this photo describes me. I am a transgender man, I wasn't confident in my body and I still am not. It was really hard trying to explain "hey, I'm a male trapped in a female body." I've called myself a male for thirteen years and now I'm 20 years of age. I'm starting to feel confident with myself, but it's hard to be transgender in a world where society is against you. 
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Princessblushxoxo Featured By Owner Jan 11, 2015  Student Writer
Hi, I'm currently doing a story about a Trans Gender Male and this piece of art would work perfectly as the cover. I saw this on Tumblr and fan-girled over how perfect it would be. May I please have permission to use it? I will give you full credit 
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Zodtra Featured By Owner Dec 21, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Haha its funny, thats how i feel.
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The-Adorkable-Nerd Featured By Owner Dec 3, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
That's a cute dress

Bu anyway such a great picture with a great message
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De-Vore Featured By Owner Nov 13, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you so much for making this. :)
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crowxrose Featured By Owner Oct 28, 2014
When I saw it, this picture hit me hard.
Not even because of the message... But because I saw it backwards.
I saw the face of a boy staring into a mirror with a dress, imagining himself as a girl.
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Dragonsong3 Featured By Owner Oct 21, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I relate to this so badly :(
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nhprodigio Featured By Owner Edited Oct 20, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
OMGosh... when I saw this I had a flashback to my early teens O_o Thank you so much for drawing this, it really captures how it feels.
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IceSamZero Featured By Owner Oct 9, 2014
Thank you so much for this.
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AmplifiedSavagery Featured By Owner Oct 5, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Amazing!
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SaxonVoter Featured By Owner Oct 5, 2014  Student
I saw this on tumblr and had to stare at if for a while to realise what I was seeing. Great piece of art, very beautiful and sends a strong message.
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RirenLiplock Featured By Owner Oct 5, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
This picture makes me nearly cry, because this is exactly how I feel when my mother always tries to make me into her perfect little girl. It's been twenty years, and I'm still not the perfect daughter she wants. Recently I'm starting to break away and try and let her see that I'm not lying when I say I can't be who she wants me to be, but am instead my own person. I hope someday I'll be free of her opinions and that she'll learn to accept who I really am.
Thank you for drawing this. It helps me feel a bit stronger.
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Gubble Featured By Owner Oct 4, 2014
Thank you for this picture
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TheDreamWeavers Featured By Owner Aug 28, 2014  Student General Artist
UseingThisToComeOut...Thank you.
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Xanness Featured By Owner Aug 23, 2014
Okay, yeah seriously. I love dresses and all, but what if the little girl doesn't want to be all girly? What if she looks like a girl on the outside, but feels like a boy on the inside? It may be shocking, and not the ideals you see for your child, but they are still your baby, and if you love them, truly love them, then you'd help them deal with this big part of their life, instead of shutting down completely and make them feel like they have in some way shamed or disappointed you. Parenthood is about sacrifices, and putting your child's needs before any of your own issues. It doesn't matter what you think, so long as they are happy. (unless they like rape and murder and drugs. Then stop that.)
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4154165 Featured By Owner Jul 17, 2014
this picture always scares the hell out of me…
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CrimRedaria Featured By Owner Oct 14, 2014
I'm just curious to how? :o
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KeikiShirou Featured By Owner Jul 9, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
bless you
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maltese101 Featured By Owner Jun 21, 2014  Student General Artist
I just saw this on tumblr

I was scrolling down and down and down

and then suddenly this post

my fingers stopped, my eyes halted. My body was frozen, stupefied.

This speaks volumes. Thank you so much.
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JDLuvaSQEE Featured By Owner Jun 3, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I LOVE THIS!!!
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8BitStitchPunk Featured By Owner May 25, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
WORDS CANNOT BEGIN TO DESCRIBE HOW MUCH I LOVE THIS. :iconfuckyeahplz:
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bahuchara-mata Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2014

Once again, to make sure you don´t misunderstood that, it´s not the point what someone “wants to be”, “wants to be like” or even worse “wants to act like”, like your pathologistic baiting term “dysphoria” implies it or similarly arrogant and pompous yunk-scientific terms a'la “sexual/ gender (identity) incongruity” and other likely totally random defamations, which only crown these body fascistic illusions.

The point is not to listen to any nonsense of others who want to tell you what you and your body are, but to show such normative assignations the shit end of the stick.
No one has the right to condemn the body of another.
Many (/most) people live their social imposed rules of behavior and call this "gender roll" (it´s just a symbolic loaded term, reproduced by specific acting, nothing someone can be - If you walk a way, and someone sees you, does it makes you become the way?), but no one chooses to be who and what they are (“he/she/it” or non of them) and no one seriously plays a “self re-enact" (If you walk a way, and someone implies you are not the one that walks on this way, does it makes you become someone else?), this is a giant difference, hope you understand finally.

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bahuchara-mata Featured By Owner Apr 16, 2014

Sorry, but that's just genital-sexist and manifestation of normative images of the body, and has nothing to do with anti-sexist clarification, but is merely a confirmation of patriarchal values and norms.

At first glance, I thought the picture would be something similar to a kind of abstract fetish fantasy of a mirror image of return during a kind of "forced cross dressing"- session; in which case, the image would even have had a chance for his unconventional style. Unfortunately I´v read your abysmally poor statement, so it just degenerates into a crude representation of a die-hard body chauvinism.
I can only advise not to repeat such altruistic hypocrisies and played condolences, and to find a different way to express your body-complexes, instead of profiling yourself on socio-cultural mechanisms of repression and control, by using clichés and stereotypes. Such abusive-exploitations are just disgusting and offending to people who are affected by social / institutional sexual false assignment.
The only thing you bring off here, is craving for recognition and indoctrinating superiority thinking that any body characteristics (inner / outer) could have any validity about your / other ones sex or gender.

Not the body is wrong, but the idea of sex is separable from the self-knowledge, and would be determined by the body!!!

“Genderistic Genitalism: approach used among supporters of the “queer-” and “gender-theory”, which generally accepts that sex and gender are constructs so far, but yet ends up sticking to genitalistic, biologistic and anatomistic sex/gender images again, for example by the propagation of the contentual separation of "sex" and "gender". Often genitalistic prejudices, exclusions and assignments are justified here by sociological terms such as "female / male socialized" or “perceived feminine”, but ultimately genitalistic suppression mostly just continues as anywhere.”

(source: "Diskussion:Genitalismus - anarchopedia")

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TheAncynt Featured By Owner Jul 14, 2014  Hobbyist Artist
uuummm... what?
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bauble123 Featured By Owner Mar 24, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
this is wonderful! It really reinforces the phrase "a picture is worth a thousand words".
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Ohmachidai Featured By Owner Mar 21, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
this is so amazing :wow: ... 
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pczelda Featured By Owner Mar 20, 2014   Digital Artist
Wow there's so much here. The girl's arm is so unnaturally thin too, wonder what you were intending with that... starvation to get thinner?
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sky-the-ripper Featured By Owner Mar 13, 2014  Student General Artist
I sooooooooooooooooooooo get this!! I'm a high school freshman and 16-years-old, and ever since I could remember I was always picked on by my own family (my mom included) and other people because I'm a MAJOR tomboy! I've always wore pants, t-shirts that would be considered a guys shirt, and sneakers! At my old school (the one I use to go to before I moved in the 3rd Grade) I was almost forced on pills because my school wanted all kids to act like young "ladies" and young "gentlemen" I HATED IT! My mom always tried to force my into dresses and I always hated it, as soon as she left I changed back into my jeans and t-shirt. I just don't get why people are so critical about how dress because of what gender they are! It makes no sense to me!
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xXTheBlackLadyXx Featured By Owner Mar 4, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
i'm sorry if I offend u but, I don't get it?
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sabishiidesu13 Featured By Owner Mar 10, 2014   Digital Artist
No offence taken :)

I guess the simplest way I can explain it is the picture is suppose to show how parental expectations, beliefs, pressures, etc. can sometimes discourage their children from being who they are.

In this particular piece, I focus on this concept and how it relates to the transgender community. At the time I created this piece, two of my friends came out to me as FTM, but due to their parents, they felt scared of being who they are. One's parents is extremely conservative, and they are completely against LGBT. The other would see his parents get defensive when anyone mistook "their daughter" as a male. They would discourage him from dressing like a boy, and would get really excited and happy whenever he dressed like a girl. However, my friend instead felt extremely uncomfortable. Seeing their struggles and fears are what drove me to create this piece.

Please let me know if you would like me to explain anything else. :) Thank you for viewing. :)
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xXTheBlackLadyXx Featured By Owner Mar 11, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
thank u :3
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Princess-Amy Featured By Owner Feb 25, 2014  Hobbyist Photographer
This is really lovely.
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Illuminated-City Featured By Owner Feb 24, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
I just...wow.  I am speechless.  Thank you for sharing.
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myocsareawesome Featured By Owner Feb 18, 2014
this is beautiful and perfect and....well, i can't really describe how unbelievably amazing this is. Heart Heart Heart  
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Rocket-Queen666 Featured By Owner Jan 22, 2014  Student Traditional Artist
perfect....
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souleateralphonse Featured By Owner Jan 14, 2014
My (gay) brother is dating a FTM trans, and this picture honestly means the world to me... He's not out yet, so of course I have a bit of trouble knowing what pronouns to use when. 
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ReinaHW Featured By Owner Jan 3, 2014   Writer
Your picture has inspired this story from me - reinahw.deviantart.com/art/Mum… - Called Mummy's Little 'Boy'.  Not often a picture will inspire me
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twapa Featured By Owner Nov 17, 2013   General Artist
This is so important. Thank you. You did a wonderful job on this!
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tomochan1999 Featured By Owner Nov 5, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
this picture is spreading WILDLY in Vietnam right now. I mean, like, it was posted multiple times on big entertaining websites, and it had a large number of likes and comments. Sadly, 2 out of 3 parts of the comments came from the people against same-sex marriage :(
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sabishiidesu13 Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2013   Digital Artist
Woah really? Could you link me to some of them?

Bahh that's really sad and depressing. :( It's amazing that my drawing is so far reaching, whether people support it or not. Thank you for telling me. :)
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tomochan1999 Featured By Owner Nov 9, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
well, here is one: www.facebook.com/photo.php?fbi…
I can't find the other ones anymore but there were like 10k likes on that page because it was a huge page.
yeah it was amazing, because when I first saw it, I thought it might be a dA thing, and then I found this. people showed concern of this, but there were also horrible comments becasue VNese people never really did open their minds to this. but anyways some people said the guy in the mirror was hot. :D
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sabishiidesu13 Featured By Owner Nov 10, 2013   Digital Artist
Oh dang, 10k likes? That's amazing! :D
Yeah I assumed there wouldn't be a ton of people who will support (and some people that don't even get) my message, but I've had so much positive feedback and told so many stories that the community has overshadowed the negativity, at least from what I seen. I really didn't mean for it to get so big haha.

Awwww yeah. XD They're both hot imo. I mean look at the girls butt. I was so proud of that butt. ;D
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tomochan1999 Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
yeaahhh I know right? :3
well anw good luck on the contest!
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sabishiidesu13 Featured By Owner Nov 11, 2013   Digital Artist
Oh this was submitted last year and it didn't get in xD Which was kinda weird to me, since I've made it in before, but perhaps its because its more critical rather than a clear "positive message", if that makes more sense.

But thank you very much :) I really appreciate it!
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tomochan1999 Featured By Owner Nov 13, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
oh... sorry i didnt know!
but that amazed me even more. a picture which was out for like, a year, and then reposted on big sites, gained concern of a big number of people (hmmm not sure if that was grammatically correct)

anw no problems~
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chillydragon Featured By Owner Nov 6, 2013
I've just checked out one of the website which posted this, www.facebook.com/Idea.Producti… , and I see what you meant.
However, I don't think that they go against same sex marriage, it was just some of them don't understand the real meaning of the picture.
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tomochan1999 Featured By Owner Nov 6, 2013  Hobbyist General Artist
.....mmmyeaaaahhh I just saw that too. But not that. It was on haivl, not facebook.
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